So we now come to the last of the 4 primary false myths of love. In the beginning phase of a love relationship it is hard to imagine that the love, the beauty could ever come to an end. And as I have said it is our ‘opiate’ producing brain that creates these wonderful magical feelings, but also as I said earlier the opiate rush does not last forever, and when this comes to an end the real grounded work of love can begin. Yes of course if you are well suited and open to growing and changing you will still feel from time to time powerful feelings of love and belonging and safety, but love is essentially not a feeling it is rather a ‘doing’, a commitment, a promise that is enshrined in the ancient promises of the marriage ceremony; ‘ From this day forward I vow to love you in good times and bad times, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part.’ This is the only everlasting love that is possible.

So these are the 4 main myths of love. A fortunate few of you will have never believed in these myths at all, most of you will have believed them to a certain extent and some of you will identify with one or more of them almost completely.

A good homework exercise would be to honestly examine previous relationships or your current relationship and try to discern whether some elements of these 4 myths have caused or are currently causing unnecessary misunderstanding, disillusionment, and sadness in your love relationships.